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Why “I Am” is A Deep Spiritual Truth

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment ” - Buddha

“The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly alive.” - Thich Nhat Hanh

“Life is Now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be” - Eckhart Tolle

“Before Abraham was, I Am.” Jesus (John 8:58)

You cannot really argue with that line-up can you! It is like a who is who of spiritual awakening history.

The phrase ‘I Am’ has been one of the most controversial in history. Jesus repeats it several times in the Bible including the mind bending statement “Before Abraham was, I AM”. It is also mentioned directly and indirectly through the work of Eckhart Tolle which I have gained huge wisdom from.

All spiritual seekers and religion founders speak of the same one truth and its spiritual awakening. It is the same truth just expressed by different voices. It is similar to hearing about a football match from fans of opposing teams. Each have their own interpretation but ultimately they all saw the same game. The phrase “I am” means a breaking apart from the dimension of time. When you are in time you are subject to suffering, illness, dis-ease and on the positive side you can plan for the future and learn from the past. When you are in presence in the state of “I am” or “being” you cannot experience illness. Illness requires time. Jesus experienced timelessness and knew, as Zen Masters do today, that the mind cannot comprehend it so bypassed the mind. A great teacher will always tailor his teachings to the student.

“I am” is the state of a mind before it judges something which is the ultimate spiritual state – empty of preconceived notions. You are a human BEING remember, BEING right now. “I am X” means that something is not x which must be so it can be compared too. This is the first phrase which splits the world into two and takes away oneness. When something is described, there must be an opposite to compare it to or it could not be. This is why Lao Tzu says “Difficult and easy complement each other. Long and short define each other. High and low oppose each other.” I am is totally barren of judging. I am X brings multiplicity into the world.

When Jesus uttered the mysterious and profound phrase “Before Abraham was, I AM”, he knew that people would try and understand mentally in the dimension of time what this means but there would be no answer. How could you be in this moment, before something that has already happened? In this way it is similar to a Zen poem which has the aim to awaken you because there is no logical explanation. For example, when your foot touches the ground it is the foot feeling the foot. That one was a huge awakening for me.

It does not mean that he is God as common interpretations will have you believe. Jesus was a man like us all. He had emotional times like in the garden of Gethsemane, got angry at the people selling things in the church etc. These common interpretations come from trying to logically interpret what Jesus meant when the truth is actually ridiculously simple and you will only find it when you stop looking. Jesus is consciousness, perfectly awoken. And since he “Is” that means that he is now. Jesus understood that the spirit can never die but the form, or what he calls “being of this world” can die and shift form whenever it wants to. His form died but his spirit is here.

You are essentially presence. Whenever you are not presence, you are mind. When you are in your mind you are in the past and future so the present gets put on autopilot. The only place of possible change in your life is put on autopilot.

I remember starting to search for deep truth around 14-16 years old. I read books of people like Marcus Aurelius and time management and whilst they were good they felt somewhat skin deep and superficial and I had yet to find anything truly deep.

One day during my university life I was in a book store and saw the book “The Power of Now” on a bookshelf and bought it impulsively without ever having heard of the author or book previously (scarily similar to what happened to someone that I know). After reading it for a while I realised the deep truth in it and experienced alignment with the now for the first time.

It was incredible, everything was fresh and I was aligned with it all, a huge spiritual awakening. I knew that everything was good in the universe and that nothing external could beat this knowing that all was good mixed with deep joy. I remember taking a job after that shuffling files and at dinner times I would walk around the local streets finding trees and plants and having experiences like Moses with the burning bush. You can sense their aliveness by sensing them for the first time not through labels. When you look at something without a label and are totally focused on it, you sense your inner connection and can harm nothing as you know it as yourself.

Since that day I have read the book, I pretty much every week at least once. That was years ago too as I am now 20. It has bought a dimension of depth into my life through its spiritual awakening that I never had before and I see around me many are still blind too.

It taught me that this moment TRULY is the only moment there ever has been or ever will be. Consider this. Have you ever experienced something that did not happen in this moment? Of course not. Jesus WAS before Abraham, he WAS in a physical body and he is now. Or you could say Jesus is before Abraham, Jesus is the leader of Christianity and Jesus is now. Feel free to replace Jesus with any name/label.

I cannot tell you how fulfilling it is to know the deepest truth for yourself. You have to experience it (in this moment I may add). It is so fulfilling to know that every spiritual path leads to the same truth and there is ways for humans to find this as I did.

“I am” is the deepest spiritual awakening truth there is. An idea is to sit in meditation and say as a mental mantra “I am”. Try it a few hundred times 2 times a day for a week and it will give you a spiritual awakening.It might not happen during the mantras it usually happens as you go about your daily business and the statement is allowed to seep into your deeper consciousness.

7 Tips To Deal With Someones Ego

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

Sometimes with ego you think you have mastered it but when you see someone who you have a tonne of history with it all comes back again and the old patterns will come out as if they had never gone leaving you feeling terrible and emotionally drained and not at all as if you have undergone a spiritual awakening. I have one family member and this person is a huge emotional drain on me. I try avoiding this person at all costs but sometimes we have to meet and although I love this family member completely I have learned quite a few decent coping techniques over the years.

1. Bring Ego To Their Awareness

If you are like me you probably have family and friends who do not have a clue what Ego is and mentioning it would be pointless. You have to bring to their awareness the fact that their ego is coming out indirectly. You cannot just say to someone “hmm, yeah this is Ego, let it go”. A great teacher will talk in language the student will understand. Just keep saying to them “Do you really feel you have to manipulate me like this?”, “Wow, this does not sound like you at all, whats up, are you ok?” etc. Whenever the old pattern comes out bring it to the light straight away and it will vanish, this is the central concept of spiritual awakening.

Another really fun one can be to distract their mind. What is happening when Ego pops up is that people are stuck in repetitive negative thought patterns that are unconsciously running. If you interrupt that pattern enough times they will not be able to get back there. This reminds me of a Tony Robbins audio tape I listened to once where he got a woman to talk about her recent divorce and every time she got into negative thought space he would throw a glass of water over her. After enough times she just could not get back to that place. Hilarious and practical.

You could just do something like stand up and shout “Pickles do me no harm!” every time there is Ego then sit down and apologize profusely saying “I do not know what came over me”. I love doing this because it is so funny, keeps things light and gets rid of all the ego in the room. Most people forget what they were complaining about after something so silly.

it also has the side effect of stopping YOUR ego patterns from coming out as you make yourself super alert by shouting.

2. Never Give Into Their Ego Demands

People with strong egos will try and dominate you and tell you to do things (ala “The Boss”). Sit internally with your power and never let it go. You are ultimately in control of your decisions and every time you let someone else make a decision for you against your will you are losing power.

Is not this what all mass murderers and serial rapists say?

“I did not mean to do it, I just lost control, I regret it every day.”

It comes from the same mindset.

Do not care what they think as this is a lesson they have to learn and you should not lower your principles for someone, they should be continually refined. You are the author of your life and spiritual awakening. Ego will try and demand things of others because it is not ever satisfied with itself and will look for fulfilment in power over others. It scares me whenever I make a decision which is against what my intention is. When I start eating to feel full rather than to nourish me. I know I am not in control and it is horrible. Does it not scare you that your life in some areas is on autopilot? It is like this if you do anything during the day that you know you should not have, pretty much everyone.

3. Intense Awareness

I use this when someone is talking and I have to listen but do not care about the content too (we have all been there). What you do is become totally present and listen to every word that they say intently. Surprisingly often when you become totally present and accepting people realize that they are speaking unnecessarily anyway, stop, and apologize. They are really just repeating the thoughts inside their head verbally as their minds are so full.. When it gets past 5 minutes of this I just politely excuse myself. Intense awareness also stops your ego coming out, so you can respond from your true self.

4. Dealing With A Childs’ Ego

In one of Eckhart Tolles’ books he has the idea of naming the experience of ego to create a sense of separation from it. You can ask the child what came over them, what they would like to name it, how it feels etc. And then whenever it comes up you can say “Here comes X again”. This is a brilliant practice that will be one of the first things I plan to teach my future children when they learn to speak to help their spiritual awakening.

5. Just Remove Yourself

“Life is too short for bad wine” (as my Dads fridge magnet says) but another true statement is that “Sometimes the best way of showing your love is not not associate with a person at all”. Some people just are not ready to move past Ego yet, they may never be ready for a spiritual awakening. Do not worry though, they will move on one day or evolution will sort the problem for you. Outsourcing and delegation baby, it is the future. Just blank them out of your life.

Imagine lying on your deathbed considering all the time you spent with people you just never enjoyed. Get rid of them, let this visualization be your spiritual awakening. Maybe one day they will help themselves up. Point them to a resource that helped you and if they have the personal power they will go for it, if they do not then they are not ready and you are whittling away your hours and minutes with someone who does not want to know. Remember the Snake in the garden of Eden. This is exactly what this is all about.

6. React With Fun

When someone makes an egotistical comment do not let it get under your skin. If you do its residue will remain there for weeks, maybe years. Always react positively to an egotistical comment. Stay light-hearted and people will see that they take this thing too seriously. Even if they do not at least you kept yourself out of Ego which is of primary importance.

7. Visualization

If you are about to go out with someone who you know has a huge Ego that will annoy you then visualize it happening in detail before it does. Sit down and visualize as if you are in your own body using every sense magnifying it each time. Visualize the other person doing there thing and then you calmly responding lightly. You get to experience it before it happens.